My mom is my friend!

I don’t know about y’all, but my mom and I have a different type of relationship... lol. It’s very unique to us and not like most… Growing up, we had many ups and downs. She was a single mother, doing a lot on her own with the support of her mom when needed. She did her best with what she had, and from my stand point, she did a great job. She gave my brother and I the tools we needed to survive on our own. She raised us both to be very independent. To stand up for ourselves, to have an opinion, and to just be ourselves. She wasn’t very hands on though, I recall that she stopped attending Parent Teacher Conferences about 6th grade lol. As long as she knew I was passing and didn’t have problems, she was good.

Around those times was also when we began having issues, just not in the same book. Our communication was off 🤷🏽‍♀️… I felt I didn’t know her and she didn’t know me. This phase lasted for years, so much so that I moved out 8th grade summer to stay with my sister/cousin. That was a growing experience for me, I truly learned a lot during that time. We reunited when we both moved back in with my grandmother. Shortly after, I became pregnant and our relationship has been on the up since then. I mean, I really just gave y’all a

REALLY good over all view of everything, lol. It was more ups and downs than that, but I don’t HAVE to get into EVERY detail, right? Lol

After going through my divorce, our relationship grew a little closer. I didn’t have many people to talk to about what I was going through and she was there. & she’s been here every day since… We talked about every other day, not every day like other mom/daughters, but we just “checked in” to hear each others voice. In between we would text, and I love that. Her text are so cute to me, lol. She makes sure she tells me she loves me at the end of every call/text and I love that. It’s great now the spot we’re in. I remember hearing my friends talk about their relationship with their mom and I would just comment “yea, me and my mom don’t talk like that…” and feeling a way. Now, I’m sharing my good moments with my mom with my friends and I’m able to feel so much joy from that. I know this post won’t mean much to most, but I’ve been wanting to do this one for a while, but I saved it for December to be closer to the holidays. I’ve also been putting it off because I wanted to make sure it was right lol. Like I wanted it to flow a certain way and not sound too horrible or too mushy, lol. I just wanted to share this portion of me because 2017 has been a great year because of my mom and I being closer. I pull from her strength and that helps me through. I know she’ll read this, and mom I would just like to say, thank you! I love you very much, and pray I can provide for you everything you provide for me. I love you mom, whole heartedly... forever

Until next time…

Honestly,

MARY